05.06.09
Posted in Uncategorized at 12:30 pm by fever
A lot of things in life are very uncertain, however much planning we do circumstances intervene to change everything.
Depression can be caused by the inability to accept that we can not know everything that will happen to us.
Living with uncertainty is a part of our lives that we must learn to deal with. Those who suffer from General Anxiety Disorder (GAD) will be in a near constant state of anxiety and worry about the smallest thing.
Finding techniques that will relax you could be a great help and there are various different ones available, even better take exercise that will have the same effect. Learn to know when your anxiety levels are increasing and try to take steps that you know will help you calm down.
Constant worrying and fear of the unexpected can lead to panic attacks and exasperate the problem even further. The body will be adversely affected, as your blood pressure will rise and more stress put on your heart and the rest of your organs.
Taking big deep breaths, if nothing else, slows you down and directs your attention to something other than what you are worried about. Try challenging any bad thoughts with logic. There is a lot to be said for positive thinking and seeing things from a different angle.
However much we like to be in control life is just not like that once you realize this and ask yourself how bad can it possibly be then hopefully you can start to see things for what they are.
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05.04.09
Posted in Uncategorized at 12:30 pm by fever
These days, there are many things that can harm your childs self-esteem.
In addition to the traditional self-esteem busters of schoolyard bullies, critical teachers and high expectations are imposed by a variety of different social pressures like the pressure to be thin and the pressure to be cool.
Many children might start to feel that they are coming up short in life. As a parent, you might become concerned about your child when he or she says I cant do it.
Since you care about your childs happiness and since you might fear that your childs low self-esteem might lead to problems down the road, its understandable that you will be willing to do anything you can to help your child boost his or her self-esteem.
Show that you have good self-esteem
Much of your childs self-esteem comes from you, especially when your child is younger. Your child can pick up on whether or not you have strong positive values, confidence, creativity and curiosity.
Have realistic expectations
Be aware of what your child is capable of. Focus more on your childs self growth than on your childs accomplishments. Parents with disproportionately high expectations will cause your child to become depressed when he or she fails to meet your expectations.
Praise your child
Be sure to give your child praise whenever he or she accomplishes something. Make sure that the praise is for actual accomplishments. When praising your child, focus on the effort that your child put into improving himself or herself rather than on the accomplishment itself.
Respect your childs individuality
Understand that your child might not have all the same interests and goals as you do. Learn to respect your childs life choices and successes. Show that you are proud of your child as long as your childs accomplishments are constructive.
Besides things involving your childs goals and development, there are several other things that might help or hurt your childs self-esteem.
- Be sure to have discipline that is fair. Discipline can be a fantastic guide for life, but the rules that you set on your child should have a purpose.
- Teach your child to learn from his or her mistakes.
- Give your child meaningful things to do. Your child probably wants to contribute to the household or the community as long as you explain how your childs work is important.
- Have a place for displaying your childs achievements.
- Help your child understand his or her unique worth.
Children want many of the same things that you do. They want to succeed, be loved and be appreciated. All they need is your support and guidance in order to flourish.
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